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69 by Self Esteem

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Self Esteem

69

Release date: 24th April 2025

From A Complicated Woman
Track 10
3:29
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About This Track

'69' by Self Esteem is a 2025 track from the album 'A Complicated Woman' that takes a hostile, self-protective stance on a sexually explicit scenario. The lyrics frame the act as something that derails attention, linking the speaker’s discomfort to a loss of focus and an inability to enjoy what is happening. A repeated insistence on not liking it lands like an argument with the limits of consent and personal preference, with the vocal delivery snapping into place each time the speaker drives the point home.

"69" is a single by Self Esteem, from the album A Complicated Woman, released 24th April 2025. The track is 3:29 long. It's filed under Singer/Songwriter. Full lyrics are available below. Dork has published 20 articles about Self Esteem.

About the Artist

Self Esteem

Self Esteem

Lyrics

69

Interactions with some other people's genitals
I don't, oh, my God, I don't like 69-ing
I don't like when, 'cause I need, I can't focus on my dick getting sucked
If I'm sucking someone else's dick
You know what I mean?
And I don't like the view, just -

Yeah (yeah, yeah, yeah)
Yeah (yeah, yeah, yeah)
Doggy style feels alright
Missionary, 40 calories burned for me (yeah, yeah, yeah)
Scissoring, I find that interesting
Spooning is always soothing (yeah, yeah, yeah)

But the one thing I hatе
'Cause I can't concentrate
No, I just can't abidе
Yeah, I've never the time to 69

69 (yeah, yeah, yeah)
69 (yeah, yeah, yeah)
69 (yeah, yeah, yeah)

Standing is muscle mass depending (yeah, yeah, yeah)
Reverse cowgirl is too much fun withholding
If you beg, I will peg (yeah, yeah, yeah)
Your ankles raised up by my head

But the one thing I hate
'Cause I can't concentrate
No, I just can't abide
I've never the time to 69 (yeah, yeah, yeah)

69
To 69 (yeah, yeah, yeah)
69

Eiffel Tower, butter churner
Turn me 'round, let's see that mirror (yeah, yeah, yeah)
Choking is superfluous
Consent serves the both of us
Lotus, tigress, T-shape, let's make a mess (yeah, yeah, yeah)
Full grind, reach behind, always somewhere on my mind

But the one thing I hate
'Cause I can't concentrate
No, I just can't abide
I've never the time to 69 (yeah, yeah, yeah)

69
69 (yeah, yeah, yeah)
69

Yes, no (yeah, yeah, yeah)
Yes, no (whoo)
Yes, no (yeah, yeah, yeah)
Yes, no
Yes, no (yeah, yeah, yeah)
Yes, no
Yes, no (yeah, yeah, yeah)
Yes, no

Hold on, hold on
Hold on, hold on
Hold on, hold on
Hold on, hold on
Yes (hold on), no (hold on)
Yes (hold on), no (hold on)
Yes (hold on), no (hold on)
Yes (hold on), no (hold on)

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Track details

From A Complicated Woman

3:292025Single
Listen
Album
A Complicated Woman
A Complicated Woman
Self Esteem
25th April 2025
Track number
10
Release year
2025
  1. 1I Do And I Don't Care
    4:48
  2. 2Focus Is Power
    3:07
  3. 3Mother
    3:34
  4. 4The Curse
    4:09
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Self Esteem — 69

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  • 5Logic, Bitch! (feat. Sue Tompkins)
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    • Credits

    Production & Engineering

    Writer
    Johan Hugo, Self Esteem, Tom Rasmussen
    Lyricist
    Johan Hugo, Self Esteem, Tom Rasmussen
    Composer
    Johan Hugo, Self Esteem, Tom Rasmussen
    Producer
    Johan Hugo
    Engineer
    Gordon Davidson, Johan Hugo
    Bass
    Johan Hugo
    Drums
    Johan Hugo
    Keyboards
    Johan Hugo
    Vocals
    Adenikè Zen, Angel Silvera, Cecilia Ventura, Damon Gould, Desrine Ewart, Glenn Meadows, James Thompson, Janine Kelly, Jessica McKenzie, Kelli Blanchett, Levi Heaton, Maleík Loveridge,
    Additional Vocals
    Pale Jay, Seraphina Simone, Tom Rasmussen
    Assistant Mixing Engineer
    Matt Cahill
    Assistant Recording Engineer
    Carmel Comiskey, Daniel Hayden, Freddie Light
    Mastering Engineer
    Matt Colton
    Mixing Engineer
    Geoff Swan
    Percussion
    Johan Hugo
    Programmer
    Johan Hugo
    Synthesizer
    Johan Hugo
    Marged Sion
    , Petra Luke
    , PJ Greaves
    , Renée Lamb
    , Rosie Cheyette
    , Self Esteem
    , Seraphina D’Arby
    , Shaun Riley
    , Sophie Galpin
    , Tehillah Daniels
    , Tom Rasmussen
    , Travis Ross
    , Yasmin Green
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